Thursday 31 July 2008

Three Reasons Why David Milliband's 'Radical New Phase' Won't Help Britain's Labour Party



David Milliband, the British Foreign Secretary, has raised a lot of eyebrows in both the Guardian and the Times with an unexpected article about his vision for Labour to beat the odds for a fourth term in government. His detailed statement suggesting that the Party needs a 'radical new phase' has been interpreted both as a challenge to Gordon Brown's leadership and an implied criticism of it. I would say that anyone who does not mention his current leader even once in his article, who does not praise him in any way and studiously sets out his own vision and stall regarding the country, is touting for leadership. David Milliband might not openly wish to draw attention as a future Prime Minister, but he is certainly making it known that he is considering it. Most important, that he would also be suitable for it and already has the ideas in place to effect it.

According to Milliband, "When people hear exaggerated claims either about failure or success, then they switch off." I would suggest that people began switching off a long time ago. It has little to do with any 'exaggerated claims' and much more to do with the first reason:

Reason 1: That people naturally switch off when a government has been too long in power.
Voters are very fickle. In any democracy people like change. No matter how great a political party, after three terms, they have simply had enough, especially when things are not going too well. It has always been difficult historically for any government to get beyond three terms. That seems to be the tolerance threshold for the average voter. They want something to motivate them into the ballot box and it certainly isn't more of the same.

We hear this plaintive cry all the time from fading governments, that the people need to know about the achievements with less emphasis on the failures. However, governments and voters are like married couples. When they are dating (just voted in or being courted in an election), the only thing that matters are those successes and visions. Everything is rosy in the garden and people genuinely listen to what is going on and reinforce the Party's actions and aspirations. They will accept the posturing, the promises and the policies. Once the policies begin to hurt and the relationship appears to be dragging on, the failures loom into view to obscure all past glories. It doesn't matter how great those successes were, and how tiny the failures, once the relationship begins to hit the rocks, everything goes with it. Worst still, as in any impending divorce, those failures are likely to be magnified to justify the split!

Milliband also believes that Labour needs to find "a way to win the argument about our record, our vision for the future and how we achieve it". But the second reason scuppers that idea too.

Reason 2: One cannot win arguments in a fading relationship because at least one party would have stopped listening.
In this case, it would be the voters. The people have already experienced that record and the effects of that vision. That's why they would like to try something new. In politics, one doesn't get lots of chances to prove the same thing over and over, especially coming from the same mindsets. Like any political party with set principles, there is a limit to how that basic 'vision' can be reworked without straying from those original ethics and beliefs. Sooner or later, it will just feel like going around in the same tight circle of dogma. Thus the voters may give two, or three, chances, if they are broadly happy and feeling generous, but British Governments do not get a fourth, primarily for the third reason - the effects of personal perception.

Reason 3: Voters have this Utopian perception that governments are in charge of what happens in their lives.
It might be far from the reality but precisely because governments are seen to have such power over individual progress and quality of life is why they are readily voted in. It follows logically that when voters perceive their lives to be worsened under a government in power, they will blame that government for it. One always needs a scapegoat. Labour is presiding over an unpopular war it allowed Britain to be dragged into, a worrying recession, fears about personal security through terrorism and escalating knife crimes, the negative effects of conflicting cultures on the community, and a Prime Minister who is being constantly compared to what went before him and is obviously found wanting. Put all those together with the general change sweeping the rest of the world and the fact that the Government is at the end of three terms already, and that's a powder keg designed to propel the incumbents from office.

Quite simply, it does not take much reading of the crystal ball or tea leaves to see that, as night follows day, Labour will lose the next election, no matter who is going to lead them. As charismatic as Milliband is, he is no Obama. He is pretty lightweight compared to America's 'Messiah'. It would be more prudent for him to wait another few years then weigh in because Labour has had their time for now. They've had their chips and their moment. The people already have a negative perception of them based on their record . No new vision will change the status quo because Labour is hampered by its own history and principles.

The real tragedy here is that the Tories will be no better at solving the country's ills. A party whose Shadow Cabinet is almost entirely White males, the sum representation of a diverse society, does not exactly fill one with confidence, fairness and proactive inclusion. If anything, Britain could be radically pushed to the Right in a pretty reactionary way if the Tories are voted back in. But the people desire change, and change they will have, just like the change sweeping America. The Tories are the only genuine alternative the people perceive and there is very little that Labour can do about that perception now, short of something miraculous and entirely unexpected from Gordon Brown in the next few months!

Thursday 24 July 2008

How to tell if you're successful in life

Being successful in life purely depends on your values. Anything that reinforces, maintains and enhances those values to affirm who you are tells you how successful you are. Your success is not defined by the rest of the world but by you. For example, you could be very rich as a public mark of success, but if you took vows which rejected money (like nuns), or money was not a priority for you, no amount of wealth would make you feel successful. It would take something else which aligns with your personal values and desires to give you that feeling of true success.

For some people like me, just waking up each day in good health is the greatest mark of success because everything else flows from life and health. But genuine success tends to come from anything we desire, anything we have worked hard for, have been determined to get, with the hunger and perseverance to match. When it is realised, especially if it has taken a long time and vindicated our belief, success feels all the more sweeter because of that.

Success is not measured on the yardstick of others, but on what matters to us, whatever gives us a challenge and makes us feel worthy. So you can tell if you're successful in life when you feel really happy in that life, no matter what you possess. When you feel a sense of calm, serenity, peace and fulfilment, and with a great sense of joy and purpose, regardless of what you are doing and have achieved, you truly are successful.

How do YOU measure success?

If I Could Change the World

1. I would create Love Academies where people are taught how to love themselves and others unconditionally. Love is the greatest force for good in our world and there is not nearly enough to go round just now. Most of our problems occur because of that lack of love, either for ourselves or for others. Many people don't know how to love, how to engage others into their orbit or how to be more appreciative of themselves. In these Love Academies everyone would learn the principles of love, great ways to love themselves, key ways to encourage the best from others and how to improve their interactive skills to bridge cultural barriers, to engender greater understanding, to be far more expressive about their needs and to feel pride and self-esteem in their person, culture and identity.

Once people have more love, hopefully, they will start looking outward instead of just for themselves. They would be encouraged to use that new positive perception to help others who are less fortunate. There would be no wars and much more dialogue. On a personal level, everyone would have to help and assist just ONE more person in their orbit. In that way, we would gradually eradicate poverty, suffering and misunderstandings without any one individual or group having to take those burdens on their shoulder.

For example, I might teach my neighbour to read, and that neighbour would teach her friend to type and that friend would teach someone else a skill, on and on in a productive chain. This would prevent only a few people having to carry the burden of change, yet nothing being too onerous for each person to do. In that way, every person can make a small difference which leads to massive global changes.

2. Everyone would have to start and end their day with a compliment to someone, a praise, a kind word, and genuine warmth; an appreciation for something they have done. Many people go through life never hearing anything positive, yet being criticised, undervalued and unappreciated instead. It would make a lot more people feel inclusive, it would remove the emphasis from our 'me' culture and place the focus outwards and it would empower an awful lot of people who enjoy little recognition just now. In that way, there would be more good works done as people feel inspired to behave differently.

Everything flows out of love and appreciation of others, and whatever we are blessed with. Make love, appreciation and respect, the foundation of life and everything else will slowly, but surely, fall into place - something like I am personally enjoying now, and it's awesome.

How would YOU change the world? :o)

Monday 21 July 2008

Is Your Country Turning Into a Fascist State? (Quiz)

In these security-conscious times, it is easy to erode personal freedoms, to rob people of their dignity and respect and to forget basic human rights in trying to get results. How is your country dealing with terrorism or global challenges, particularly in their reactions? Is it a kind of knee-jerk, cavalier response, or a sensitive, well thought-out and caring one that does not treat everyone as a criminal?

I posed this question in another article and asked American readers to rate each of the 14 Fascist Signs from an American perspective. These "Early Warning Signs of Fascism" were developed by Lawrence Britt and quoted in Fascism Anyone? . I have also rated America, and my own country, Britain, using my perception, on each of the Signs to see the comparison. The results follow the Score Key at the end.

Why don't you try the quiz below, after you have read the article (which gives some prompt questions to help your decisions)? What's your sincere opinion, or that of your friends and family? How does your perception compare to mine or others? This should generate a lot of debate!


FASCISM Test



Which country are you comparing?

Country:

How democratic is your country, or is it leaning towards Fascism?

How do you personally feel about your freedoms?

Use these warning signs to find out!

For each of the Fascist Signs listed below, select a reply that, in your opinion, DEFINITELY applies to it.

In my country there is:





  1. Powerful and continuing nationalism.

  2. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  3. Disdain for human rights.

  4. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  5. Identification of enemies as a unifying cause.

  6. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  7. Supremacy of the military.

  8. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  9. Rampant sexism.

  10. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  11. Controlled mass media.

  12. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  13. Obsession with national security.

  14. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  15. Religion and government intertwined.

  16. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  17. Corporate power protected.

  18. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  19. Labor power suppressed.

  20. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  21. Disdain for intellectuals and the arts.

  22. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  23. Obsession with crime and punishment.

  24. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  25. Rampant cronyism and corruption.

  26. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


  27. Fraudulent elections.

  28. Yes, all the time.
    Very often.
    Quite noticeable.
    Sometimes.
    Odd occasions.
    Hardly - wishful thinking!
    Not at all.


Thank you for completing this quiz.

To help our research, you can send your score to us by pressing the EMAIL ME button after your result.

After scoring, see the SCORE KEY below to see what the result means for your country. Please note: this is a fun quiz with a serious message.




SCORE KEY (Not designed to be scientific!!)

85-98: No doubt about it - a Fascist state.
71-84: Nearly there!
55-70: Some worrying concerns.

41-54: Healthy regime
27-40: Great government
12-26: No chance of Fascism here!

(My Scores: UK=47, USA=81)

The Dilemma of Being a Teenager Today



Teenagers in today's society have, to a great degree, the best and the worst of all worlds.

First, they are born into a society that couldn't be more revolutionary and innovative. They have all these gadgets at their disposal that their parents dreamt of and their grandparents couldn't even imagine. They have an incredible amount of information to aid their development. They also have opportunities galore to express themselves, to extend their reach, to discover their potential and to enhance their life quality. They would not be able to imagine what my world was like, 50 years ago, having to read by candles, having no phones at all, having nothing electrical and hardly any buses (we had to walk everywhere!). The mobile, the microwave, the video and Internet appear to represent an alien world I would not have believed capable of existing in my early childhood. So our youngsters couldn't be more fortunate.

However, they are having to learn even more than we had to do. There are so many things expected of them that they have to cope with, AND teach their parents as well, it must be kind of heavy to deal with, when all they want is to be looked after themselves. Many are confused about their identity, their ability, potential and direction. They have little guidance on innovations and, on top of that, many are kept back in their own development because of their parents' fear of this new world; the mental barriers the parents might have erected in their bid to cope with a new and threatening environment; one that has partially robbed them of their confidence and authority.

Finally, teenagers are increasingly operating within a world of their own through technology, especially with the new games, often lacking human warmth and comfort. They occupy a suspicious world where hugs and basic affection come with questions, doubts and caution. Many of them go through each day missing out on a simple cuddle, a word of praise, a hug, an affirmation of how wonderful they are and without understanding, affection and value. Without the extended family of friends and neighbours who used to affirm us and look after us, many youth now feel isolated, excluded and unloved. This increases the deviant tendency among them as many struggle to deal with their anger and pain. Teenagers live in a remarkable world compared to the one of yesteryear, but one which is slowly losing social connections while it traps the young in an oasis of insularity and virtual reality

Friday 18 July 2008

Are people inherently good?

Yes, people are inherently good because they are programmed to react to love, the greatest influential force in their lives. They seek love, desire it, need it and lavish it on others because love connects them to others. When it is missing from their lives the effects can be catastrophic. Babies know no evil. It is the way they are brought up, the way they are valued, the way they are treated and the respect they get which turn those young toddlers from feel-good worthy children to angry, resentful deviants.

People simply react to how they are treated. The way they are valued dictates how they perceive themselves and their world and then they react accordingly. If it is a negative perception, then there will be the behaviour to match. Even the hardest hearted person will melt with kindness and love than with anything else. If they are greeted with criticism or rejection instead, they begin to question their worth, they lose stake in their environment and community and become unfeeling monsters, in some cases, wanting only to hurt and destroy. There is always a connection between a person's experience, especially in childhood, and how he/she comes to see the world they are in. They will either welcome their life and opportunities and make the most of them, or go off the rails to be vengeful or to get attention.

One of the most subtle things which change the nature of people are expectations. Many good people change over time trying to conform to expectations while others who were likely to be deviant have actually improved their lives because of the faith and trust placed in them and high expectations of them. So people are inherently good and, if we expect them to behave in a positive manner, we are likely to get that reaction than if we assume the worst of them, yet expect them to be behave differently. So long as they are loved, appreciated and valued, we will always get the best from them.

The cult of celebrity and its effects on society




The cult of celebrity has risen in importance at the same time that belief in God, or a higher being has been waning, and television has become more dominant. People have a natural instinct to look to someone for reflection, affirmation and authority: whether a hero, mentor, protector or higher power, and what makes celebrities popular at the moment is exactly what they symbolise and represent, that 'higher' being, with many people turning away from religion.

Celebrities tap into our need to be significant and they realise our dream of freedom, riches and fame - a potent lifestyle combination which many people crave, especially younger ones on the threshold of life. Celebrities these days, especially those emerging from reality shows like American Idol, are usually ordinary people plucked from obscurity to be famous, and that gives many others hope that something similar may happen to them. Now with the Internet and television running a constant stream of celebrity images, news and gossip, people are bombarded daily with a lifestyle many aspire to. The net effect has been a dramatic shift in society regarding values, priorities and aspirations.

Our values are changing in that many people are no longer famous for doing something regarded as ethically and socially beneficial. Many celebrities, like Paris Hilton, are famous simply for having a wealthy background and being famous, while others, like Amy Winehouse, Britney Spears, are famous for being bad. Naturally, because there is no real substance to their fame, they tend to be boring individuals whose looks and background become the currency for attention, but are equally transient because they lack depth or are trashing their lives. Our priorities are also changing in how we view one another because anything to do with celebrities tend to take centre stage. Celebrities are the hallmarks by which everything else is judged and they set the tone and standard for fashion and behaviour. Nothing guarantees an audience like having a celebrity involved. Thus the cult of celebrity is dominating all aspects of life, especially when it comes to media attention and establishing social priorities.

Finally, society's aspirations are changing, primarily for occupations, where the more glamorous jobs are now sought after, especially media related, as many youngsters seek their own 15 minutes of fame to emulate their heroes. That explains the glut of reality shows on television at the moment as people seek personal exposure to be significant even for a few minutes. Wth celebrities so accessible, their presence makes everything seem possible. There is no doubt that the cult of celebrity is changing society beyond recognition, especially when technology is helping to boost that adoration and worship. But, like any fashion or fad, no doubt it will be replaced by something else when its current appeal has faded.

Tuesday 15 July 2008

The Causes of Racism

Racism is pernicious, particularly hurtful to those on the receiving end, and is little understood. Its causes are not just social, neither can they be remedied in an instant. Racism goes much deeper than simple social factors and it stems, primarily, from the following four causes:

1. Instinctive reaction for species protection: It is the most natural thing in the world to gravitate towards our own kind, to recruit in our own image and likeness and to feel comfortable with people who outwardly look like us, reflect who we are and behave like us. We are all ingrained with a sense of self protection, especially of our culture, territory, family, the things we cherish and which form our identity. Racism comes out of a desire to protect all of that, as well as our roots and our species. Anything which isn't like us immediately becomes threatening and, where it is also perceived to be inferior, the prejudice towards it in order to protect our own becomes even more lethal and menacing.

2. Fear of loss and displacement: Seeking to protect our own kind means we fear any loss of what we already have and what makes us who we are: whether it's our jobs, our status, territory, possessions, personal significance and even our being. We fear being replaced by others, especially in a relationship, by anyone perceived to be much more appealing and desirable than we are. When that person is from another race, it simply confirms our unworthiness and adds insult to injury. Fear is the biggest cause of racism in our world, especially irrational fear of difference and loss, which tends to see any difference as both threatening and undeserving of what we regard as our right.

3. Ignorance: When we know better we can act better, especially if we have the confidence to put that knowledge into action. But what keeps racism going in a vicious circle is ignorance of the worst kind. If we grow up doing a particular thing, and everyone else around us does it too, we come to believe it is right, no mater how morally reprehensible it could be to another person who does not share our culture and outlook. We will not see anything wrong with our actions because those acts would be validated by everyone else like us. The only change will come through education and awareness of why those actions might not be appropriate, the consequences they carry for others as well as the alternatives that are available. Until people who know no better undergo an educative process around racism, ignorance will always keep racism thriving, especially among those who have no desire to act differently.

4. Lack of self love, feeling of unworthiness and desire to feel superior: The most racist people in our world tend to be the least confident, lacking in self esteem and, most of all, lacking in self love. They project all their negative feelings outward unto others, especially on to the most week and vulnerable. When we truly love ourself and appreciate who we are, we can appreciate how others feel and accommodate them more. We also have better understanding of others because we appreciate where we are coming from. Racism comes through a feeling of unworthiness, of being 'victimised', of lacking the opportunities others have, and of being a failure. Someone has to pay for such low feelings and self-perception. This means a need for scapegoats in order to feel superior and to exercise personal power over others. Racist people tend to feel insignificant, isolated, wronged and unloved and they remedy that feeling of exclusion by blaming someone else for it instead and seeking opportunities to exercise that prejudice and resentment.

That is why racism will always be difficult to eradicate because it is not a social act. It's an individual one. The causes of racism begin with the individual and can only be resolved by addressing the actions of individuals. It's individual people who behave in a racist manner which is then enhanced by the group and validated by institutions. That is why institutions often remain racist and discriminatory in approach for a long time unless the individuals within them are encouraged to act otherwise.

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"If you have no love or respect for yourself, how can you give any away?" - Elaine Sihera

Are Happy People Productive People?

Yes, happy people are far more productive people for a variety of good reasons, especially the following:

First, they feel good about themselves and their great self-esteem means less angst or worry about what is possible. They tend to feel less anxious about the consequences and so are more willing to at least try. Happy people are likely to be self motivated to do whatever they desire because they do not need anyone to motivate them to feel good. Being already happy, they are also likely to be far more positive and to appreciate their world and other people, which provide them with the resources to get what they want.

I am a very happy person, always with a big wide grin on my face, no matter what is happening to me, or how negative the situation. I have great self-belief in what I can accomplish and am highly self motivated every day, especially as I work for myself. I have the the self-discipline to attempt what I want to do and the end result is that I have tended to be a pioneer, always first to do something. I have achieved so much single-handedly, many others have been amazed at my capabilities and determination. Life is a joy to live, instead of having anything to be gloomy about it, so productivity sits easily with me.

When we are unhappy, life becomes a drudgery. We are less motivated to fulfil our desires because we lack the essential ingredient to make it happen: self belief and confidence. The end result is that we tend to do far less than our potential would allow because most of our time would be spent whingeing, feeling sorry for ourselves as victims, criticising, wishing and hoping rather than doing. Most of all, unhappy people tend to be riddled with fear, which keeps them paralysed in action, and yearning instead of doing.

A happy disposition is a productive one because, when life feels good, we want to reach for the skies. Being happy at least gives us the disposition to make the crucial start to achieve that goal.

Thursday 10 July 2008

What Causes Apathy in Society?

Apathy is a direct by-product of fear, disappointment and neglect. It exists when people's values are not reflected, their desires are unfulfilled within society and they feel a sense of alienation from what is happening around them. It is difficult to feel involved and included if we do not feel a part of our social milieu, if we believe there is nothing in it for us and if we feel excluded from the outcomes. In such situations there is no feeling of attachment or association and so there is likely to be detachment in the form of an apathetic response to prevent further hurt or disappointment and to dampen expectations.

There has to be some kind of payoff for people to feel they have a stake in their situations, surroundings, or society. The payoff could be practical, physical, emotional or social, but there has to be something which makes it worthwhile for that person to participate. Today's world is changing so rapidly, especially for older folks, there is a general air of apathy through fear and apprehension. Many people feel on the periphery of life, excluded and unwanted. Much of what they cherished or which brought them to where they are now are no longer valued, respected or upheld. This has left those people without an anchor, feeling isolated, fearful and expendable in a morass of new technology and outdated customs.

When we fear and feel disconnected it is easy to be apathetic, to feel disjointed and on the sidelines. Apathy today is most obvious in the field of politics where many people believe they are not represented by politicians, that democracy isn't really working to their advantage, their wishes and feelings are being ignored and they are without a voice. That is reflected in the increasingly low turnout at elections and the disappointment in the politicians themselves. That might explain why Barack Obama is galvanising the young around him with his leadership, especially those who have been apathetic to the political process because they have felt excluded from it. It seems that they get a sense of emotional connection with Barack's vision and feel aligned with where he is heading.

A feeling of irrelevance breeds apathy and many people who cannot relate to what is happening in our modern world feel more comfortable simply being apathetic instead.

Do you always say "yes" when you really want to say "no"?

The two main reasons why we might say 'yes' when we want to say 'no' are a lack of confidence and a desire for approval.

When we lack confidence we are deprived of the willpower to be assertive, to be consistent and to actually seek what we want because we fear the consequences of what saying 'no' might bring. We are not strong enough to stand up or our own rights and so allow others to dictate the pace. We also lack the skills to deal with someone who might be more socially adept, or someone we fear, we respect and admire or who have influence over us, so we are more willing to say 'yes' for a quiet life. That might please other people, but it is likely to leave us feeling frustrated and dissatisfied with our lives. While saying 'yes' might make someone else happy, if we are yearning to say no, we do ourselves no service and engender a lot of stress and confusion in the process.

The second reason, a desire for approval, stems from being in controlling environments: either with parents, spouses and even bosses. Wherever there is control, there is a desire to please through fear, isolation and repression. As we are likely to be expected to do as we are told, the only way we can feel included and valued is by pleasing the significant others around us. That might work for that particular moment in time, or that situation, but it really keeps us feeling inadequate and unhappy with ourselves and makes us even less empowered each time we go against our own needs and desires.

Only by facing the consequences of our actions can we then say what we mean and stick by it. However, the more we seek approval by simply pleasing others the less fulfilled we will feel and the more frustrating life will appear to be. Most important, we soon lose our own integrity because it is difficult to be honest when we are not even being honest with ourselves.

Why do people chase after their desires?

People go after unlimited desires simply because it is programmed within them to do so. Desires serve a very subtle but effective function and are essential to our development, our ability to create, to innovate and to grow. They are the key to our existence. We are programmed to chase unlimited desires because the achievement of every one of them demonstrates our potential, our capacity to make things happen, the ability to build our world and reinforce our self-belief. Remarkably, at the same time, we are evolving through the fulfilment of those desires, developing in awesome, new ways we never thought possible. As we evolve, the results of our actions ensures that we we desire new things as we mature and progress on our individual journey.

If we did not chase desires, or we just chased a few and stopped, we would not reach this technological stage of evolution that we now enjoy. We would have reached a plateau where nothing much would happen. We would stagnate as we lose sight of our purpose and potential. But the mere fact that we are never satisfied with life, that every fulfilment leads to even greater yearning is a clever ploy by God, Nature, the Universe or whatever, to ensure we continue to grow until the day we die; that we never rest on our laurels because we are always moving our own goalposts to new heights of excellence. Desires ensure we have no time to sit and stare, that we are always striving to develop our world and ourselves. Without desires, and the curiosity and yearning to achieve them, we would still be back in the dark ages as primitive beings, being satisfied with what we have without the motivation to do any different.

Desires make or break us. We cannot live without them because they shape us into whomever we wish to be and ultimately become. We gradually materialise into our dreams that are formed from desires. In turn, desires keep us on track, every step of the way, through chasing their fulfilment. A lack of desire means no motivation while we settle into a never changing rut, but chasing our desires mean we are always changing too.

Tuesday 8 July 2008

10 Things I Hate About the World We Live In

The things which annoy me tend to be those that rob us of our humanity, which do not build, but merely destroy, and which detach us from our world, like the following:

1. IGNORANCE...Lack of knowledge has the most debilitating impact on our world because, without knowledge, we are at a loss to develop our potential to fruition. Ignorance keeps behavior and appreciation of others at the most basic level and simply robs us of a life.

2. Lack of SELF-LOVE...This is the biggest cause of problems in relationships. People lacking in self-love tend to be selfish, insecure, self-absorbed because it really is only about them. Lacking self-love means that one also lacks the love to give to others, which then sets up a vicious cycle of emotional pain.

3. WAR...This is the most destructive force in our life, often destroying more than it builds, yet solving very little in the long run. War might be an awesome exhibition of violence and power but the negative consequences it has, the havoc it wreaks and the sheer destruction it entails leave huge questions about how appropriate war is for resolving anything between nations or peoples.

4. VIOLENCE...particularly between youths and gangs, is pernicious, especially when gangs engender a sense of belonging among the youth and teaches them how to behave. Like war, violence solves nothing except to rob both the perpetrator and the recipient of their lives, in one form or another.

5. POVERTY...A lack of money and other basic essentials of life rob us of the opportunities we could have to make that life more enriching. Poverty is lethal because of the other negative things which come out of it: the main ones being ignorance, loss of self-esteem, loss of hope and violence.

6. INJUSTICE...Any injustice anywhere encourages injustice everywhere. We lose or humanity when we put up with blatant inequality and injustice to others, especially when they are weak and vulnerable.

7. Lack of RESPECT...At the heart of respect is sensitivity and a loss of respect is so obvious in our world today, in the way we treat each other, our expectations of each other, imposing our views on others and the selfish way we tend to live detached from one another.

8. Misuse of POWER...Power corrupts when it is misused and, if nothing else, the invasion of Iraq has demonstrated the impact of misused power for selfish reasons; the devastating way it affects the lives of many innocent and unsuspecting people.

9. GREED..The world has more than enough to go round for everyone. Nothing is more unattractive than seeing people, no matter how much they have, chasing money or material things for their own sake, when so many others have so little.

10. Lack of COURTESY...My mother taught me that 'Courtesy costs nothing, give generously' and I have lived by it ever since. The lack of courtesy in human interaction is now so sad, when a simple smile, thank you, and compliment can truly make someone's day, yet cost nothing at all to give.

How Ambitious Are You?

Four hundred years ago, Sir Walter Raleigh, British explorer extraordinaire, successful courtier and poet, fancied by Queen Elizabeth the 1st, suffered a crisis of conscience. He loved the Queen and she liked him too, but not being royal caused him much anguish regarding any kind of romantic liaison between them.

In a moment of whimsy and heartache, he used his diamond ring to etch the following lovesick statement on his window pane: "Fain (willingly) would I climb, yet fear I to fall." The Queen, seeming a little impatient with his dithering and obvious lack of confidence, wrote underneath, "If thy heart fails thee, climb not at all"!

Much closer to our own age, nearly 120 years ago, another poet, Scotsman Robert Browning, was more forthright: "A man's reach should exceed his grasp, or what's a heaven for?"

These two examples illustrated a marked difference in the degree of love ambition the two men possessed. Despite his great courage elsewhere as an adventurer, Raleigh felt inadequate because all he could see was the possibility of failing, not the thrill of the chase or the glory of winning. Browning's ambition was boundless, without false barriers, and gave him love and immortality.

Your reaction to the title of this article is likely to depend upon your gender. In our modern times ambition is an ambiguous concept which lends itself easily to contrasting gender applications and sexist malice. For example, men seem more comfortable in accepting ambition as a natural and expected part of their life. Ambition is considered an essential ingredient for the dominant male in his quest for success. He is likely to be seen as a rising star and potential high achiever; one to watch and nurture. A woman similarly endowed is often regarded as 'pushy', 'aggressive' or 'butch', words that are not exactly complimentary and are deliberately meant to imply an absence of the more 'softer' feminine traits.

Negative Labels
For women, too much ambition is perceived as a negative attribute, suggesting notions of self-fulfilment and importance way above their 'station' in their bid to compete with men. In view of this perspective, many females are often labelled 'ambitious' and 'very intelligent' at unsuccessful interviews, the words suddenly assuming a derogatory nuance because of their female context.

This attitude could have much to do with the general understanding of the word itself. Ambition is often confused with the need for power, but that is only one small aspect of it. Ambition is actually tied to realising the extent of our capabilities while coming to terms with our innermost desires. Personal potential cannot be achieved by doing nothing and hanging back. We have to constantly go forward, testing ourselves to the limit at every opportunity, pushing against individual boundaries, to ensure complete self-fulfilment.

Much frustration is caused by people who are ignorant of their own potential and, for numerous reasons, are secretly afraid to find out. Like Raleigh, they are too hung up on that possible failure instead of concentrating on the experience itself and the gains to be had. In this way, their growth is stunted from the very beginning. Others might give an air of nonchalance, and contemptuous disdain for their ambitions, while masking secret, unfulfilled, frustrating desires.

At some point, we have all come in contact with the seemingly quiet type who gets on with his or her job and wishes for nothing else, outwardly disdaining material things or promotion, emphasising how 'happy' they are in what they are doing and need nothing else. Or they might detach themselves from ambitious goals. Such people appear to have no need to join the rat race, having rejected the cultural and societal norms around them. Instead, they keep their distance from anything which even hints at advancement for its own sake.

Well, that's what we are supposed to see, but look again closely because there is no such free spirit.

Sunday 6 July 2008

The Simplest Way to Fight Discrimination in the Workplace

Racism is obviously still alive and well in the wider society, especially the workplace. Legal requirements might stem the tangible, open forms of racism, but they are useless against subversive discriminatory practices which have been woven into the fabric of working life: like bullying, put downs, poor assessments, lack of advancement, lack of fair conditions, proper training, negative labels and name calling, having to carry the burden of 'merit' and feeling isolated from the group. Those are common forms of 21st century racial discrimination.

Discrimination comes out of personal prejudice: simply having the power to put such prejudices into action by discriminating against others, whether openly or covertly. It begins from the recruitment stage, because we tend to recruit in our own image and likeness. Put simply, human beings gravitate towards their own kind for validation, reinforcement, security and comfort. This is no different in the recruitment process. That is why many workplaces remain strongly monocultural and gender biased, mainly reflecting one ethnic/gender grouping. As the majority society sets the standards and has ownership of commerce, racial discrimination begins from the advert stage. From the moment the candidate's CV arrives in front of the interviewing gatekeeper, a minority person is being judged in a different way from their colleagues.

First, they will be judged on their name and ruled out. Then if they make the interview, they will be judged on voice, personality, culture, presentation and perception, that do not match with or conform to expectation. Worst of all, they will be judged on a spurious thing called 'merit'. This word is never used in association with White males but it is always a burden that minorities and other underrepresented groups have to carry. White workers automatically 'merit' a position or seem entitled to it without question. They are used as the invisible yardstick by which all others are judged, hence why they would fail to see any discrimination themselves. However, minority ethnic staff, women and other underrepresented groups, have to prove they 'merit' it, to justify their presence. At the same time, recruiters miss the supreme irony that, as we always recruit in our own image and likeness, many men are hired purely through their gender and very little else!

The Limiting Notion of Merit
The notion of 'merit' is precisely the way minorities are kept out and White males hang on to their power. They let in just the odd 'deserving' minority to give the impression of equality and fairness. He/She is then surreptitiously co-opted into helping to maintain the biased and discriminatory status quo through tokenistic merit rituals and the desire of the proud new appointee to justify their new role and to hang on it at any cost. The real tragedy is that so long as minorities carry the 'merit' concept like a millstone around their necks, they will always be perceived as second best, regardless of how good they think they are.

If the applicant is successful, he/she is likely to be given unpopular tasks, or tasks which might keep them busy but lack the status to attract coveted advancement. Like principals of colleges in Britain, only 4 are minorities out of over 400, yet 16% of students are minorities. This is mainly due to the fact that most minority teachers are given the kind of low status subjects which do not lead to promotion. Later on in the job, when the assessments are due, somehow the minority worker's productivity or approach will never be perceived to be quite up to standard. As most assessors will be from the majority group, who also hold the keys to scarce resources in such a competitive arena, minorities tend to lose out there most of all. That is why so many are on lower grades never seeming to be competent enough for supervisory or management posts.

Add to that the subtle bullying, name calling and the lack of training opportunities and the scale of discrimination begins to reveal itself, but not in ways which can be tangibly proven, which makes its underlying effects even worse. How do you tackle such ingrained imbalance which is regarded as not really being there when those affected feel its effects very clearly? Very difficult, on one hand, where you have narrow minds and closed hearts. Yet the answer to discrimination does not lie in any useless policies or fancy documents. It actually resides in each individual in the way they TREAT one another.

Basic Needs of Every Person
Every human being, without exception, seeks four things in their life, depending on personal aspirations. Each of us seeks to be SIGNIFICANT, APPRECIATED, VALUED and INCLUDED. Being significant is connected to our desire for achievement, being appreciated and included is crucial to our sense of belonging and being valued is tied up with our self-esteem. Minorities would place simply being 'included' as their top priority primarily because they tend to be alienated from the majority society and on the periphery.

Fighting racial discrimination in the workplace does not need paper policies and flowery words of intention, otherwise we would not still be asking this question in 2008, especially in view of the millions of words that have proliferated to combat discrimination down the years; words that have seen so little action. What is needed is a different, much simpler approach, one which emphasises responsibility, respect and accountability from every single employee, not just senior personnel or the policy makers. If every person in the workplace sets out to treat their colleagues in ways which help them to feel significant, as if they matter; to feel appreciated, especially for a job well done; to feel valued, especially as key workers who have a stake in that business/service delivery, and to feel included because they are valued, there would be a dramatic shift in how people feel about themself and their potential, and how they are perceived, regardless of race, gender, age, etc. It means everyone, not just minorities, will be treated with value and fairness, instead of change being left just to the managers, or the White majority, while the general worker is left untouched to continue their subtle and negative actions.

True diversity is the acknowledgement of difference, the full acceptance of it and the celebration of it. Stemming discrimination and valuing diversity is thus an 'inside job', it starts from within us, in the form of the appreciation and respect we have for ourselves, and that dictates how we feel about difference. Unless we feel good about ourselves, and respect ourselves, we cannot feel good about others. Thus, most of the time, discrimination is the end result of basic fear and insecurity - fear of loss in all its forms, and, above all, fear of difference. For example, in the case of the radio ham, Don Imus, who was fired from his job, there has to be some self-doubt and low feelings of worth to call women who are trying to better themselves 'hos'. As Imus has proven, no amount of fine words and intentions in a policy will reduce that fear without the genuine will to change. And not from top-down either, but from the grassroots right up to the plush office of that detached executive in charge.

Why The Growth of Racism Has Little to do With Racists

The rise of the far right, the rise of fundamentalism and terrorists networks, and the continued support for Israel, even when they too commit atrocities, have one thing in common: they are dictated almost exclusively by one version of 'truth', by unaccountable privilege and by a basic lack of human respect which form a natural breeding ground for bullies, racists, extremists and disdain for the natural rule of law. They are also a direct product of the fragile and debilitating Israeli-Palestine conflict where each side acts in a mindlessly violent way while claiming to wear the mantle of 'truth'.

However, what is the real truth in this case involving two opposing sides where it is clear that one is more powerful than the other and has used its might to ruthlessly enforce that power? There is little doubt that, had the Palestinians being similarly armed with both the right weapons and allies, this conflict would have been resolved a long time ago.

Truth in any major situation, where the stakes are high, is thus an elusive concept, governed totally by four key elements: power, privilege, money and colour. As three of those elements are changing constants, today's truth would have been yesterday's 'lies'. Nelson Mandela, Martin McGuinness, Robert Mugabe, Fidel Castro – now all respectable, politicians, though 'terrorists' of old are living testaments to that.


Loss of Moral Fibre
At the moment, the 'truth' according to Israel is the one in force and that 'truth' is being accepted, condoned and promoted by powerful allies in a world which is rapidly losing its moral fibre, its sense of values and sense of direction; a world where the rule of law, the legitimacy of it and the application of the law is being constantly flouted and ignored by those whom 'truth' favours, or who are powerful enough to disregard it. In fact, there is a kind of international lawlessness developing which is masking an enormous amount of racism and bias under the guise of 'justice', to the extent that the only real terrorists now appear to be the Al Qaeda network. No other terrorists, particularly if they are White, seem to matter at all.

The rise of the far right, and fundamentalists, is indicative of the power of the privileged to use their media and economic resources to ensure only their 'truth' is acknowledged and accepted. Such prevailing 'truths' are also strong indicators of growing personal anxieties, our changing values regarding each other and the ensuing racism in the world order caused by increasing public selfishness, apathy and a widening economic gulf between the rich and poor.

Thus racism is not limited to racists, nor is it controlled by them. Racism thrives because the political and privileged elite dictates the pace through their unassailable 'truths' while the majority do nothing, their silence and inaction fuelling the covert bias, continuing oppression and gross injustice to powerless minorities. A growing White minority across Europe feels powerless, disenfranchised and anxious about their lives and prospects, seeing scapegoats in racism and xenophobia as the answer, while a complacent majority looks on disinterestedly until they are forced to take notice to preserve both themselves and their freedom. The world also looks on uncaringly too while many atrocities are committed by both Israel and Palestine, unable to see that this conflict will engulf us all on cultural and racial, lines if it continues unabated. Additionally, Israel, of all countries, should have realised by now that one cannot destroy a people into submission. History has shown repeatedly that they will only rise again, more powerful than before.

Irrefutable 'Truths'
The only irrefutable truth is that people in Palestine and Israel are dying needlessly and a resolution is now imperative. The state of this ravaging conflict has continued so long and is now so dangerous to Middle East stability and world peace, the blame has to stop on either side for the conflict to be resolved. The historical counter accusations and carnage are well documented for all to see. What is needed now is for Israel and Palestine to cast aside continued vengeance for their dead and concentrate on the living; to nurture the environment in which as many of their people can reach adult fulfilment to ensure both country's existence. It means mutual respect accorded, not just from the powerless to the powerful, as well as an acknowledgment by the privileged White countries that power carries even more responsibilities than it does rights.

Power comes not from mere arms but from knowing how to use one's influence, position and armoury in a spirit of compassion. The truth of the powerful, White, rich and privileged nations says that the world is threatened by 'Black' countries like Iraq, Afghanistan, Korea, Palestine and Iran which should be bombed out of existence, especially when the lives of their population are worthless in the face of such 'truths' which seek justification for racist acts. At the same time people from culturally diverse countries appear to have few rights. The Afghanis being held in Cuba, the thousands of Iraqi people killed without a murmur, their lives being more expendable than American ones, and Palestinian towns razed to the ground, in response to the equally obnoxious suicide bombings - regardless of the human and economic costs. These are just a few of the most obvious and disturbing examples.

Igniting the Sleeping Majority
It takes only one conflict too many to rapidly diminish a nation's resources, so talk of igniting a war against other countries like Iran might well ignite the sleeping majority into action. If the Philippines and Cory Aquino taught the world any lesson it is that, where politicians are perceived to be inactive, ineffective, biased or unjust, the people usually take the initiative in some way to correct that imbalance.

The rise of the extreme right is thus a wake-up call to every person within the decent law-abiding majority of whatever race, colour, creed or culture across the world. We can all rise with purpose, take note and act individually or collectively against the mushrooming tentacles of inequality and racism. Or we can ignore the alarm and go back to sleep, oblivious to the ominous consequences while remaining cosy in our comfortable bed in a dreamworld of false security.

The choice is entirely ours.

Friday 4 July 2008

Happy Birthday, NHS...From a Very Grateful User Sharing Your Moment


The NHS is celebrating 60 years this year, and so am I. We were both born in 1948, one of the most amazing years in history when some significant world events took place. We merged together when I joined it as a trainee nurse between 1967 and 1969. I came to Britain to be a nurse in Kings Lynn General hospital and left partly because of racism and partly through discovering that I wanted to teach instead. I had mixed feelings of my time spent in it, but I also have friends who benefited from it and have enjoyed a good life from the qualifications they got.

I will not be one of those who will ever knock the National Health Service. I have travelled to a few countries and I have yet to see a national FREE health service that is working so well for the population. The NHS could always be better, as nothing can ever be perfect. There will always be room for improvement. But at 60 years old, this Grand Dame is doing just fine.

I have been a Type 2 diabetic for nearly 10 years now. Every single tablet I have taken has been free of charge, and there were years when I was on 10 tablets daily, 3650 each year. They all had to be paid for, but, thankfully, not by me. Then there are the regular check ups, attendance at diabetic clinics, my feet to be checked annually and my eyes to be checked regularly, and still not a penny from me.

Then 18 months ago the unthinkable happened. My body began rejecting every medication I was given, including insulin, and my world fell in. I was so ill some days, it was unbelievable. And the NHS came into its own during that time. Once a reluctant doctor realised that I was like no one he had treated, he swung into action. I was prescribed six further drugs which had little effect. They all had to be paid for too. But I had no worries about that. I could concentrate on getting well. I didn't have to fret, like my American friends, about having health insurance. Still no change in me as the months rolled by. Then I was referred to a consultant who was very sympathetic when she held my hand and said: "We have one more medication to try and, if that doesn't work, sadly we have nothing currently to help you because you are unusual."

Gulp. It sounded like a death sentence. Just for once I wanted to be like everyone else. I gritted my teeth in determination.

The new injections were designed to stimulate my pancreas to produce its own insulin. The first trial month was fraught with worry. The results were inconclusive (assessed by another consultant) so I was asked whether I wished to continue. I closed my eyes and refused to think of the horrible side-effects I had experienced, trying to block out how low they made me feel, while I concentrated on the potential for making me better. I heard my voice from a distance saying, Yes, I would like to continue.

I just got the good news, barely another month later, that I am definitely on the mend. My progress was 'very good'. I even lost 5 lbs in weight too. Clearly not out of the woods yet, but I can start to smile again, thanks to the NHS.

I came out of the hospital, sat in my car, cried a little bit with gratitude, and pondered where except Britain could I have two consultants, two doctors and one nurse working closely with me to find a solution, all trying to give me the best health care possible and absolutely free of charge. Nowhere else on earth, I decided, as I dried my tears, smiled broadly and headed home. It was good to be alive and feeling valued.

A Very Happy Birthday, NHS. May you see many, many more! :o)

From an incredibly grateful fan.
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